a list of things i may need post-penny. plus: a book that revels in female pleasure, the new thriller i'm watching, and the perfect summer set under $50
A few years ago we had the opportunity to usher our favorite good boy, our dog Murhpy, to puppy dog heaven. It was the most selfless act/choice I have ever made. We knew he would hold on and on and on for us because he loved us as much as we love him. That's the funny thing about our pet children, they don't want to leave us either and will hold on for as long as they can. We were able to give Murph a beautiful goodbye by having someone, like you are, come to our house to usher him into his new life. He ate a huge chocolate muffin, laid on a soft blanket while he left us. It was the hardest but best choice I have ever made. I was not prepared to experience the pain I did. Tearing up now thinking about it. We had my SIL create a hand engraved box for him for his collar and toys and had a beautiful ETSY artist create a picture of him for our walls. He is always looking over us. I am here with you in your pain as are so many of us as we grieve with you. It's funny how animals become such fixtures in our lives without us even knowing it and their little voiceless personalities become our best friends and they don't even have to say anything. Sending you love and margaritas from TN. xo
Oh, Sarah, my heart aches for you! I said goodbye to my 16 ½ year old kitty in November and it is so hard. I cried just reading this post. But I'm glad you have so many resources set up and you're getting this really intentional time with her. Those first few days are the hardest, they feel so empty, and everything was a reminder of "oh, this is the first time I'm waking up without her" or the "oh, this is the first time I came home to an empty house" but over time the memories and photos will make you smile rather than cry. It might feel impossible now, but it will happen. It's so, so hard but Penny is lucky to have you and your life together <3
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. While I haven't experienced a loss of a pet, I have experienced significant losses throughout my life especially in a space that you shared with someone. It SUX with CAPITAL letters. There's no way around it. GRIEVE, CRY, MOURN, DRINK. Do EVERYTHING you mentioned in your note. I love the idea of filling your house with flowers. I always think DANCING is the right remedy to get out of a funk or immense sadness. If I lived near you (not sure where you are), I'd be there with your favorite cocktails, largest bouquet of flowers and a perfect pre-dance playlist. Like Christina Yang and Meredith Grey, I think dancing to your favorite songs is the perfect distraction to pain. DO IT ALL. There's no formula to handling pain or sadness except TIME. And TBH, you might never get over the loss of Penny and that's OK too.
Please know a new subscriber, an even bigger FAN is thinking of you, sending you virtual hugs and dance moves.
May your grieving be like a good Shiva. Where people come and sit and remember the good times. Cry and laugh and cry some more. Peace as you go dear cat mom.
A few years ago we had the opportunity to usher our favorite good boy, our dog Murhpy, to puppy dog heaven. It was the most selfless act/choice I have ever made. We knew he would hold on and on and on for us because he loved us as much as we love him. That's the funny thing about our pet children, they don't want to leave us either and will hold on for as long as they can. We were able to give Murph a beautiful goodbye by having someone, like you are, come to our house to usher him into his new life. He ate a huge chocolate muffin, laid on a soft blanket while he left us. It was the hardest but best choice I have ever made. I was not prepared to experience the pain I did. Tearing up now thinking about it. We had my SIL create a hand engraved box for him for his collar and toys and had a beautiful ETSY artist create a picture of him for our walls. He is always looking over us. I am here with you in your pain as are so many of us as we grieve with you. It's funny how animals become such fixtures in our lives without us even knowing it and their little voiceless personalities become our best friends and they don't even have to say anything. Sending you love and margaritas from TN. xo
Oh, Sarah, my heart aches for you! I said goodbye to my 16 ½ year old kitty in November and it is so hard. I cried just reading this post. But I'm glad you have so many resources set up and you're getting this really intentional time with her. Those first few days are the hardest, they feel so empty, and everything was a reminder of "oh, this is the first time I'm waking up without her" or the "oh, this is the first time I came home to an empty house" but over time the memories and photos will make you smile rather than cry. It might feel impossible now, but it will happen. It's so, so hard but Penny is lucky to have you and your life together <3
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. While I haven't experienced a loss of a pet, I have experienced significant losses throughout my life especially in a space that you shared with someone. It SUX with CAPITAL letters. There's no way around it. GRIEVE, CRY, MOURN, DRINK. Do EVERYTHING you mentioned in your note. I love the idea of filling your house with flowers. I always think DANCING is the right remedy to get out of a funk or immense sadness. If I lived near you (not sure where you are), I'd be there with your favorite cocktails, largest bouquet of flowers and a perfect pre-dance playlist. Like Christina Yang and Meredith Grey, I think dancing to your favorite songs is the perfect distraction to pain. DO IT ALL. There's no formula to handling pain or sadness except TIME. And TBH, you might never get over the loss of Penny and that's OK too.
Please know a new subscriber, an even bigger FAN is thinking of you, sending you virtual hugs and dance moves.
Sending you lots of love ❤️ Nothing will prepare you but you will get through it. Just let yourself feel it all.
May your grieving be like a good Shiva. Where people come and sit and remember the good times. Cry and laugh and cry some more. Peace as you go dear cat mom.